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My baby should be born in about three weeks.

Being a parent is a really funny thing. You never really understand how protective you are until you have a child. I'm constantly thinking about my son and how to keep him safe. Lately those thoughts have been moving towards my unborn son as well.

My mother in law has a boyfriend that I don't like. I think I've mentioned him before. He wears ball hugger shorts and tank tops to family gatherings. He shows up at Easter wearing a name badge for some group he is part of in an attempt to have someone ask him about it.

Just blatant cries for attention.

I don't like him around my son. I don't know the guy and he is overly comfortable around him. I'm not saying that in a way that my son doesn't like him. I mean he is a man who I don't know who seems feel like he can play with my son like he has known him and me for years.

I understand that he wants to try to fit in to the family, but fit in with someone else's kid. He likes to take pictures with his camera phone.

It's just very creepy, but nothing really out of the ordinary.

He' just odd.

Back to baby #2.

We're going to have a private room after the baby is born. I only want my family and close friends there to visit my wife.

As a husband and a father its my responsibility to make sure my wife and child feel comfortable.

I need to feel comfortable too.

My oldest is at a point where if he doesn't want to play with you then he can just walk away.

A newborn doesn't have that luxury.

I don't want my mother in laws boyfriend at the hospital. I don't want him in his ball huggers hodling my infant son. I don't want him whipping out his camera phone and snapping pictures of him.

I want to remember my sons birth as a time when we were surrounded by people we wanted there.

I have been telling my wife this for awhile. She has kinda been listening but not really doing anything about it.

Our parents will always have a power over us. I understand that. She didn't want to offend or get into it with her mom. She wanted to just let it slide and then move on when they left.

I didn't.

I pulled her aside and told her that it wasn't going to happen. I didn't want the mother in laws boyfriend there and there really wasn't anything that was going to let it happen.

I explained to her the reasons why I felt that way and told her I had no problem telling her myself. My mother in law may have some power over my wife, but she has none over me.

I do know my mother in law though and she tries to twist things so that they look like she is the victim.

To me I find it somewhat offensive that she would assume to bring her boyfriend to see my baby without checking with me. To her she thinks because he is her boyfriend he should come. thats fine, but this is not a boyfriend of 2 years or so. I've only met him about three times and as I mentioned I'm not a fan.

So I sent the mother in law an email telling her how excited we were about having her meet the new baby. I then said that because I didn't know him well enough, I didn't want her boyfriend there.

She replied that she was saddened and that her boyfriend is:

"a wonderful, kind and loving person and I hope that someday both of you will come to know that for yourselves."

She did say that she would respect my wishes though. I stressed that this was all my decision. She did CC my wife in the email though. I think that was her way of trying to get her involved. Like I hadn't gone over this with my wife and I was doing all of this behind her back.

Its so funny. First of all this is my kid. I don't care how saddened she is. Its my kid. I may not like your boyfriend but I don't skip family getherings because he is there. Its family and you deal with it.

When my kid is born I make the rules. We're going to have a party for the baby a few weeks after he is born and the mom in laws BF can show up then.

He's not family. He'll never be a step grandfather. He will never be anything to my son other than his grandmothers boyfriend. I will always be cordial and have my son be respectful, but there are no life lessons that this can or will ever teach him.